The 7 Stages is very similar to the original stages of grief.
1. Shock. Total disbelief.
2. Pain and guilt. Your body reacts physically. I got nauseous every time I remembered what was happening. It is natural to have guilt over not doing or saying specific things to our loved one that passed.
3. Anger and Bargaining. We have all this bottled up anger that may get released on those involved with the passing or those we blame for the passing. God can be a receiver of this anger too.
4. Depression. When everyone goes home and resumes their life, you are left with this deep sadness and despair. It is difficult for others to understand that have not walked this walk. This is a good time to seek a good grief counselor. You need an objective listener.
5. Adjusting. You don’t think it will happen but it does… Life seems to be calmer. The depression lifts a bit and you begin to take part in the living. Your mind clears. You may find yourself laughing, whistling or singing.
6. Problem Solving. There are practical decisions that need to be made and you need to redefine what you want to do with your life. If you have the financial freedom, you may want to do some charitable work in your loved ones honor. Find a purpose.
7. Becoming hopeful about Living. Begin to look forward to your future. Your loved one that has passed will be proud of you. They are your cheering squad. Your loved one would not want you to waste your precious life in sadness.